One thing you have  to realize  since dealing with people is that they don’t operate on the same emotional level as you do.

When I see posts about people getting “revenge” on their exes by sleeping around, boasting about their post breakup accomplishments, getting rebound partners that appear to be higher in value, I just shake my head and think: “Girl, no. Move in silence.”

Now there’s nothing wrong with leveling up past a heartbreak, but we should be leveling up for OURSELVES, NOT to stick it in some Narcissist’s face.

Your ex knew who you were before they left you, cheated on you, disrespected you, or broke your heart. They KNOWS what value you brought to their life. The point is, they don’t care. Trying to “show them what they lost” is a futile effort when they didn’t appreciate what they HAD to BEGIN WITH. You’re not showing or telling them anything they haven’t already seen or known. they just don’t appreciate it because they’re a LVM. A LVM will never appreciate anything of high value because they can live in mediocrity. And there are plenty of women willing to provide a space for them to continue to thrive in mediocrity.

It’s when you act unbothered by them, make money moves in silence and plan your strategies that they begin to sweat. Narcissists cannot STAND to feel they aren’t getting to you. They HATE to think you can flourish and live without them. They HATE being ignored, and they thrive on domination. Some of them even agitate their partners to get a rise out of them. I’m slightly convinced that some Narcissists even get off on and feed on bringing disorder into their relationships. Why else would a Narcissist who seemingly has everything he could want in a partner continue to hurt him/her and take her for granted? Narcissists seem to thrive on disorder.

So, when you were once enamored with them and made them your world, and now they see you socializing without them , eating out without them , putting effort into your appearance for yourself, establishing your own and moving forward with your life, UNBOTHERED by how they treated you…that’s when they’ll feel like shit. This especially works on NVM. They didn’t have anything going for them before you, and it’s beneficial to them to see you suffer right along with them . So don’t beg and plead anymore. they feed on that reaction. Move in silence, without explanation, and ghost their ass into oblivion. Leave them hanging. It’ll hurt them more than your words. Trust me. All those tears, yelling matches, fights and ultimatums won’t do a damn thing. they feed off knowing you’re still attached to them .